8 Romantic Rules for a Fabulous First Date! – Lauren Frances
“I’m so confused. At first, he seemed to really like me. He made reservations, picked me up, and took me to a fabulous restaurant. But for some reason, over the course of dinner, he became a little cold and distant. By the time he dropped me off he seemed withdrawn and just sped off into the night. I haven’t heard from him since! And I really liked him. I’m so bummed! What happened?”
Sound familiar? If so, you might’ve broken one of the following romantic rules without knowing it.
And to ensure that your first date isn’t your last, get this info under your garter belt:
Tip 1. Don’t be negative about dating
Why should a man pursue someone who isn’t positive about dating? Talking to a man about how awful dating is just begs the question, ” Waitress, can you bring us the check please?”
Romantic Rule: Be a romantic challenge, not a mental health challenge.
Tip 2. Don’t get tipsy
Always maintain enough sobriety to assess your date’s character. Practice restraint, and don’t have more than a drink or two when you’re out on a first date.
Romantic Rule: Always stay sharp enough to do effective Romantic Research!
“Remember, sometimes less conversation is more!”
Tip 3. Don’t talk about your personal problems
Therapists might butterfly’s inside when you talk about personal problems, like your concern about the zillions of germs that thrive in public restrooms. The typical male will be disenchanted. You’ve violated the sacred air space of “romantic quality time.”
Romantic Rule: You already know all about you. Keep your problems to yourself and get to know all about him.
Tip 4: Don’t talk badly about your exes
Don’t recite a laundry list of grievances about your exes. This will only make you sound emotionally unavailable at best, or worse, wounded.
Romantic Rule: We all have baggage. Keep it in the closet on first dates.
Tip 5. Don’t Spook Your Suitor
Don’t point out your physical flaws. Beauticians, fitness trainers, and hairdressers are among the army of specialists who will relish talking with you about your “problem areas.” But beware: once you draw your dates attention to the little mole that you secretly despise, it will be hard for them to overlook it too, forever. And forever is a very long time.
Romantic Rule: Confidence is sexy! (Sometimes, thoughts are for the inside.)
Tip 6. Don’t Chase Your Date
Don’t deprive your date the thrill of the chase. Besides, it’s so much fun being caught! A woman can encourage and inspire men through small flirtatious gestures, (saying, “Nice tie!” or winking at men online) but after that, allow men to pursue you. And when you do, they’ll often chase you straight up the altar!
Romantic Rule: When men chase you, they’re less likely to fly the coop!
Tip 7. Silence is Golden
Don’t feel pressured to entertain your date, and fill up every second with meaningless chatter. If the conversation falls silent for a moment, don’t panic. Natural pauses are sexy, and body language can be much more powerful than words. Just relax, slowly smile at him, and breathe. You might surprised. He might say in the midst of a deliciously pregnant pause… “Come here and kiss me!”
Romantic Rule: Remember, sometimes less conversation really is more.
Tip 8. Don’t Lower the Tone
Anyone can be pleasant when they’re enjoying themselves, but the true test of character is how one behaves when they’re terribly bored, or worse, being treated shabbily. There’s nothing to be gained by suffering through a terrible date, so if you’re having a gawd-awful time, depart quickly and gracefully.
When you’re itching to depart, say:
“Thank you so much for meeting me Jerome.” (Stand up, and smile.) “It’s time for me to be getting on home. Take care!”
Extend your hand for a quick shake, swiftly turn on your heel and depart.
Romantic Rule: If you’re on date number one and aren’t having fun, release men back into the wild immediately!
Use these 8 love-life saving tips, and you’ll skirt around dating mishaps without snagging a stocking!