10 First Date Tips For Men – Lauren Frances
Men often complain that women are mysterious, complicated creatures who are difficult to please. In truth, most women are quite easily pleased from date one once you know how to make them feel desired, safe, and inspired. These 10 tips will ensure you put your best foot where it belongs…forward!
Tip 1. A first date should be light, fun and romantic
Coffee dates are only to get you both past the “I’m not sure I’d like to see you in the buff” test, and designed for easy exits. The female definition of a first date is this: You pick her up and make reservations. Any deviance from this time-tested formula is usually a red flag, and not what most females consider a proper first date.
Manhandling Tip: Starbucks doesn’t count!
Tip 2. A Long Lead Time
Considerate and smart men make plans well in advance. They know that a woman likes to be treated like she’s too in demand to have huge holes in her social calendars, (even if you have intel that would suggest otherwise!) You can create positive romantic tension by making plans several days in advance. This creates the secret ingredient of seductive success…anticipation.
Manhandling Tip: Create romance by planning in advance for it.
Tip 3. Actions speak louder than words
Women know that men invest in the things that they value with whatever resources they have at their disposal, be it cash, creativity, energy, or enthusiasm.
If you make plans that are insultingly casual it’s a clear sign that you’re withholding your approval from her. Women will take this lackluster performance seriously, and often shoo you away without further ado. You don’t have to spend big bucks, but if you like her, why not come up with something that will delight her?
Manhandling Tip: The plans you make for her, tell her the plans that you have for her!
Tip 4. A Confirming Call
Being vague about your plans will only cause most women needlessly anxiety. If men had any idea about the major pre-date regime that they go through to prepare for a high priority date, you’d probably be way more on top of this one. When you call to confirm your first date too late* (after 4pm*) she’ll be irritated and stressed-out even if she doesn’t show it.
So call by 3pm, and you won’t blow it!
Confirming by 3pm on D-Day and saying you’re looking forward to seeing her will relax her. Enthused and thoughtful men will often call women the day before, and the chivalrous man will also alert her to the fact that he’s now en-route, too. Newsflash: This will not turn your date off or annoy her in the least. On the contrary, it’ll make her feel taken care of and like she’s made a good decision in agreeing to date you!
Manhandling Tip: Having good manners will make her feel like you’re safe and trustworthy, and she’ll RELAX.
Tip 5. A Lovebird lands on her doorstop at the appointed time
It’s bad form for a man to keep a woman waiting in general, but especially so on a first date. This often puts women into a state of complete Dressing Disorder. When men are late, most women will just keep changing outfits until the doorbell rings, and then be forced to greet you mid-outfit! She’ll then blame this on you, because you should’ve arrived on time to avert this crisis!
The downside of being tardy: In truth, women know that if you can manage to get to work on time and in front of the TV in time for the playoffs, you can ring her doorbell on time. After all, she’s big game too!
Manhandling Tip: If you’ll be delayed longer than 10 minutes, inform her of your new ETA as soon as you can. Most women l appreciate extra time to fluff-up before you ring their bell.
Tip 6. Signal your attraction and approval immediately
Men earn a woman’s affection by consistent care and positive attention. On a first date, and every date, women will look for little clues that signal your desire.
No matter how hot or how homely, she’ll want to know that you find her fetching if she’s agreed to spend quality time with you. To do this, quickly toss her a compliment. Try the old standby “You look great” or the new metrosexual classic, “Love your shoes” immediately upon your arrival. You’ll have set a warm and positive tone and scored an easy point.
Manhandling Tip: Quickly inspire romance and put her at ease by paying her a compliment.
Tip 7. Woman are suckers for a man with a plan
Women love men who have the ability to care for them and about them. It’s always a good sign when a man has made reservations because it’s proof that you’re not winging it. When you take control, it’s a signal that she can relax and enjoy herself. When you don’t, she’ll often start having reservations about you! The typical woman will also be wary of the man who asks in a whiny voice what she’d like to do. She’ll fear he’s either lacking in testosterone or motivation, or assume that he just wants to have sex with her and quickly move on.
Manhandling Tips: Women assume that men who don’t make reservations for them, have reservations about them!
Tip 8. Pick up the check
If you’re wondering who should pick up the first check, please consider this…
REALITY CHECK: Women spend wads of money on first dates: there’s the bikini waxing (painful), manicures and blow drys (time consuming) lingerie (expensive) and Pilates (ridiculously overpriced). It’s an investment for women to just show up from date one.
Manhandling Tip: To score a big point, be chivalrous and offer to pick her up and feed her. She’ll appreicate it!
Tip 9. Be a class act
If the date was a dud, don’t weenie out and say, “I’ll call you.” Just cut her loose by giving her a quick peck on the cheek and say, “Thanks for coming out tonight. It was great meeting you.” That’ll signal it’s a wrap.
Manhandling Tip: Be chivalrous and if it’s a wrap, bow out quickly.
Tip 10. Seal the deal
If she knocked your socks off, however, walk her to her door, look her directly in the eyes and say, “I had an amazing time with you tonight.” and move in for the perfect nightcap…a quick goodnight kiss. If she turns her cheek, don’t despair! She may not be ready for a liplock just yet. Tell her you want to see her again and set up your next date right then and there. If you’ve followed the 9 female friendly tips above her answer should be an enthusiastic YES.
Manhandling Tip: Set up your next date before you leave her. It’ll delight her!
And who could blame her? You’ll be impossible to resist with these first-rate 1st date Manhandling tips!
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